Top 5 Myths of the SFT

Being a solo female traveler is an amazing thing to be, but it is not without its challenges. The social stigma that follows us doesn’t always portray us as we really are – independent, awesome, brave and beautiful. Instead some will call us flighty, unfocused, non-committal, irresponsible or one that does not take life seriously.

Sometimes you will encounter people who just can’t figure you out and this bothers them. You are a mystery, something that they can’t understand. Someone that doesn’t quite fit into their stereotypical box of what/who/how an individual should be in society.

Well, I’m here to say forget all that. We need to keep defining ourselves instead of letting old patterns of thinking define us. We don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations of who or what we should be. Solo female travelers carve out our own path.

I’d like to address some of the myths that surround SFTs in order to help break down these preconceived notions.

MYTH #1 – Only a crazy woman would travel alone. It’s too scary and dangerous.

We’re crazy all right… crazy smart. We’ve done our research on where we’re traveling to and have loads of common sense. I’ve traveled on my own for many years and can tell you that if you do your homework, use your street smarts and keep your wits about you, there is nothing at all to be scared of.

MYTH #2 – She must be loaded.

I wish that were the case. But the truth is, you don’t have to have a ton of money to reach your travel goals. A shift in your priorities or spending habits can leave you with plenty of travel dollars saved in your pocket. (More help on this to come)

MYTH #3 – Women who travel alone are looking for a “good time”and easy to sleep with.

I’m sure somewhere there are women travelers that are easy to sleep with and maybe that’s where that idea came from (and hey, I’m not judging) but I’m not the type to have that on my itinerary. Just because I sit down and chat with you over coffee/tea/a drink doesn’t mean I’m looking for anything more than some company or conversation. It’s not an open invitation into my pants!

MYTH #4 – She’s running away from something.

Sometimes in the past, yes, I have used travel as a method of healing from trauma. But not always. Sometimes I just want to visit a really cool place or experience a new culture. Why is wanting to experience life called running away? I think it’s more irresponsible on a personal level to let one’s dreams and passions fall to the wayside in the name of fear and security. Predictability. Mediocrity. Sometimes we need to shake life up a bit. It doesn’t mean we can’t handle life, it means we want to embrace it while we are still here and still have the chance to.

MYTH #5 – Traveling solo is boring.

In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Traveling alone is true freedom manifested. With a partner or group, you have to juggle between wants and desires. It’s hard to fully absorb where you are because your attention is diverted by someone else. With solo travel, you have your own agenda. It’s travel on your own terms. Solo travel enriches your experience, giving you an opportunity to make real connections with local people. Plus, meeting other travelers on the road is always a good time!

If you have been thinking about planning your own solo trip but have been hesitant to take the first step, I hope this post has helped give you the confidence and encouragement to take that step forward to becoming a solo female traveler yourself, and embarking on the awesome journey of total travel freedom!

And if you have any questions, comments or feedback, please don’t hesitate to give me a shout!