guilty for traveling

Have You Ever Experienced Travel Guilt?

Have you ever felt guilty for traveling?

How about that feeling of anxiety when asking your boss for time off so you can take a vacation, secretly hoping that your requested time off will be “approved”? Or worrying about your job being in jeopardy if you’re gone too long? What your fellow co-workers will think? Where does this travel guilt and fear of taking a vacation stem from?

 

In the past, I’ve always played down my travels to work people and even “friends” because for some unknown reason, I’ve always felt “guilty” about discussing my adventures. Sound weird? Yeah, I agree. It never really hit me why until I recently read this article on vacation shaming.
 

Maybe it’s because I never really got great interest about my stories from them. It was more like “oh that’s cool” and then the conversation would move on to menial subjects, like new episodes of television programs or the latest gossip about x and y. It’s like I just had this amazing experience and other people are so stuck in their program that they can’t relate, or have brushed off what I have to say when I wanted to share my experiences. This kind of brush off has caused me to feel a little bit guilty and I don’t know why.



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Is it possible that the feeling of guilt is a reaction to the subliminal jealousy of others? I mean, I’ve always been a person who’s sensitive to others’ energies and usually pick up on peoples subtle feelings like this. And after feeling this more often than not, I stopped sharing with them and downplayed anything relating to my times spent abroad. What’s sad is I’m one of the most humble people I know and I would never talk about my travels to brag to anybody. Matter of fact, it’s quite the opposite – I want people to realize that if I can travel, they can, too! I want to encourage them to have these experiences!
 

However, the unfortunate truth is, many people will never realize their dreams because they don’t have that driving force, that motivation that’s needed to push them into taking the first step to changing their lives. So is this shaming/guilt a reflection on their own inadequacies and general unhappiness in their “normal” routine-driven life?
 

Did you know that Americans get the least amount of vacation time over any other country in the world? Did you also know that companies in the US are not required to offer their employees paid vacation time? (Yes, for real.) And that it’s American women who make up the majority of those who give up their vacation days out of fear or guilt?

 

One must ask themselves why. Why has this fear mentality been ingrained in our psyche? Why must you bust your ass at a job you entire life to hope you live to see retirement and think that’s when you’re going to “really” start to living your dreams? Seriously?
 

Something has to change.
 

This is a problem with American culture. We get shunned for having dreams outside of society’s norm, wanting to live our lives the way we see fit and not wanting to be chained to our desks until death. And this kind of mentality is so backwards.
 

I’m tired of the negative stigma attached to people who don’t live inside the box. We were given a life to LIVE and this shaming of vacation time/traveling has to stop. In the past, it’s this very thing that has caused me problems when looking for jobs because, in my time, I’ve quit lots of jobs in order to travel long term. But, that ends up looking bad to new potential employers because, as I’ve been told, “you’ve had too many jobs”.
 

Well, if yall understood the importance of vacation time, the need to grow as a person through experience and reaching one’s goals through travel then I wouldn’t have had so many jobs! They totally overlook the experience factor, the skills attained, important self-reflection and life lessons one can learn on the road, which honestly not only makes me a better employee, it makes me a better person.

 

That is finally why I decided to quit my last job a few months ago and focus on the two things that I am passionate about – writing and traveling – and started working for myself. That’s how Indie Chick Travels was born! On a personal level, I wanted the chance to control my own destiny instead of letting someone else (jobs/office politics/etc.) control it for me. Where will it take me? Only time will tell. But in the end I’ll always be glad that I’m at least doing something to carve out a new path because the old one was not working for me.
 

For those who can’t do this for whatever reason, we have to work to change this stigma of making people feel bad for wanting to travel or take time off for a vacation. No one should feel guilty or be shamed for taking something that is owed to them. I mean, isn’t that what we look forward to in our work lives – our vacation time? The time when we can be our true selves? Travel broadens the mind and enriches the soul. Anyone who tries to make you guilty for taking an opportunity to see the world and grow on a personal level should get a mental checkup and take a vacation themselves!
 

Do you experience this kind of guilt/shaming when it comes to asking for vacation time off or talking about your adventures with your friends/family? How do you feel about this?

 

55 Comments

  • Roxanna August 25, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    I am glad to know that I am not the only one who thinks this way! I am a pretty high ranking manager, and I allowed my company to suck away years of my life, literally. It took a few shocks, so to speak, to turn my head around, and now I take my time, and the whole point of my starting a site was to encourage others to do so as well. Thanks for this story!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 10:13 am

      Hey Roxanna,
      Thank you! I know, it’s like you give your life to a company, you should not have to feel guilty or be shamed for taking a break. I’m glad you made the change and now take the time off that you have earned and are encouraging others to do the same! That’s awesome! It’s a necessity for the soul and our well-being : ) Rock on!

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  • Hannah August 26, 2017 at 4:49 am

    Gosh, I feel this so much. As an American, I can’t tell you how many times I have downplayed (or flat out not even mentioned) things about my trips because I get this guilty feeling.

    I’ve been living in New Zealand the last year, and you wouldn’t believe how different their outlook is on taking vacation. It’s incredible – I look at different CVs, at least 20 per day, as part of my job, and I can confidently say 80% have travel breaks within them between jobs. What’s looked at as a negative thing in the US is actually a normal part of Kiwi culture. In fact, living abroad is so common it’s got it’s own name: OE (overseas experience) for jobs worked while abroad.

    It’s amazing to be in a country that embraces and CELEBRATES travel so much. America is innovative in a lot of ways but this is one thing that has to change. Amen girlfriend!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 10:09 am

      Hey Hannah,
      : ) Thank you so much! I know, it’s always been amazing to me that when I meet non-Americans while traveling that it’s common for them to take gap years or sabbaticals without worrying about how it’s going to affect their work life when they return. And that in some countries they get a month for vacation and we’re stuck over here with (some companies) only offering TWO WEEKS for an entire YEAR? (last company I worked at offered 2 weeks for the first NINE years of work!) Lol I mean, come on, that seems so inhumane to me, especially for one who travels abroad. It must be so refreshing to live in a country that embraces it, where it’s encouraged and not seen as “weird” or “strange”. That’s how it should be! I think things would be a whole lot different (for the better) in American culture if it were like that here : ) lol Thank you for your feedback!

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  • Meghan August 26, 2017 at 8:57 am

    I definitely feel this way! I’ve had a boss who said, “We don’t take days off here.” Which in turn makes you feel really guilty when you do! I agree though. Something has to change and we need to stop feeling bad about it.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 10:18 am

      Hey Meghan,
      Wow! That’s so wrong! I’ve been around that kind of boss before! My whole thing is, you EARN vacation time, then when you want to take it you feel chastised! Like what is that about? Another kicker is when you’ve like earned 3 weeks, and in your mind you’re planning a trip to Thailand or something, which requires at least 3 weeks, and then they come with the ish like “Well, you can’t take it all at the same time” um… really? LOL Yes, we do have to stop feeling bad about it, because by taking what’s rightfully ours, we’re doing something positive for ourselves! 🙂

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  • Kareemah Ashiru August 26, 2017 at 9:13 am

    I hear you girl! I felt this same way. Everything time I spoke about my travel adventures, people reacted like I was showing off or indirectly saying I was better than them. When in reality I just wanted to share a part of who I was and encourage them to take that leap too. It’s funny because American values are supposed to be about being different and taking the road less travelled but I guess that sounds good in theory because we Americans do the opposite.
    My remedy so far is to hang around like minded people so I don’t have to downplay who I am. I mean I have to hear about their own lives, it’s only fair the conversation is even too.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 10:23 am

      Hey Kareemah,
      Yes! I know this exact feeling! I have had the same experience – they act like you’re trying to brag, but really you’re just looking for someone to share your experiences with! You’re right – American values are portrayed as being open-minded and diverse, but when it comes to this, the attitudes about it are stuck years behind other countries and not progressive. These views definitely need a revamp! I like your remedy – and that’s why I started my blog, too – so I can talk about my travels as much as I want 😛 and not feel guilty, all while meeting other inspiring and awesome like-minded people to share with : ) Thank you so much for your feedback!

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  • jin August 26, 2017 at 11:05 am

    What a very interesting read! I’ve traveled extensively for the past 10 years, covering over 60 countries, and I work at a very conservative lab environment. So I can understand your views. I think it’s really a mix of a lot of backgrounds that makes people appear jealous or non-interested or even ‘ignorant’. The one thing I came across the most is how people at work are so committed to the ‘societal standard’. Go to school, get a good job, get married, buy a home, have kids, etc. All this before you turn 30! When you don’t follow that conventional path – people start questioning, unfortunately. Something I constantly find myself head-butting with my conservative coworkers. But I think you’re right, American values (and because I’m Asian-American, also Asian values) needs to be more open-minded. Like how Europeans approach life!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 11:34 am

      Hey Jin,
      Thank you! Yes, I agree. It’s funny because I’ve always had life views outside of the societal standard that you speak of and have been called weird or strange throughout my life by people that live “inside the box”. When I was younger I used to wonder why I didn’t fit in and thought maybe something was wrong with me because I saw things differently than “normal” (haha) people. That’s how skewed things are here – we say innovation and new ways of thinking are encouraged, but are they really? You know what’s funny is I never really gave this stuff much thought until I myself began traveling 10 years ago, too! On my first trip ever, when I was in Europe my eyes were opened to how life should be (with more focus on enjoying it!) and how their way of life was of a much better quality than ours. I’m so grateful to have had the experiences I’ve had and if that makes me strange or weird, then I’ll be that! Lol Thank you for your feedback and stay original : )

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  • Nicole August 26, 2017 at 11:48 am

    Really interesting read. Thankfully I never feel guilty about holiday and if anyone says, you’re always on holiday (which they hardly ever say), I tell them yep and they should get on it 😉 I live in the UK though and get 25 days vacay + bank holidays. I cannot imagine only having 2 weeks, that’s insane. How can you stay refreshed and motivated at work with only 14 days holiday in 365 days? 🙁

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 12:56 pm

      Thanks, Nicole! See that’s what I’m talking about! Your time off is a whole lot more fair than ours. At least you get time to enjoy your life outside of work and do things you want to do. You’re right – 2 weeks is not enough time. Some people even break it up to have 2 holidays per year, that’s only 1 week for each one! I couldn’t do it – I like to travel abroad so that doesn’t work for me. What baffles me most is that it’s not even required here to give employee’s paid vacation time! It’s like showing your employees appreciation is not required for all of their time and energy spent working for you? Wow. Thank you for your feedback from a UK perspective 🙂

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  • Cristina August 26, 2017 at 12:05 pm

    I feel the same girl and I’m not American. No matter where you come from, there will ALWAYS be people who make you feel that way.
    Anyway, feeling guilty won’t help. Just continue chasing your dreams. 🙂

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 12:59 pm

      Hey, Cristina! You’re 100% right! As far as chasing my dreams, I have no plans to stop, I’m just getting started… 😛 Thank you!

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  • Sierra August 26, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    Oh man, YES. This resonates with me on a pretty deep level. Thankfully, my parents both understand and encourage my love of travel, but I have some friends and work colleagues who seem to think my traveling is excessive or luxurious. It’s not, trust me. Ha! I just prioritize it over other things and think it’s important.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 1:05 pm

      Sierra!
      I totally hear you! That’s what it is – a matter of shifting priorities. It’s funny how when we travel, we realize how much material crap we really need in life (not that much!) lol which has changed the way I live mine – great for saving money to travel! lol It’s funny you say about friends and colleagues thinking your travel is luxurious – I’ve had people think that too, meanwhile I’m over here washing my clothes in a sink, for instance! hahaha I’m glad you have the support of your parents – that’s a great blessing to have! My mom encourages my love for travel too, and I’m so thankful to have that! 🙂

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  • Megan August 26, 2017 at 1:05 pm

    Yes! I absolutely have experienced traveler’s guilt, and it is mostly from people who don’t want to talk about it, or who respond with negativity or envy. Mostly they make assumptions about our finances (out loud in front of others!) or about us shirking other responsibilities to be able to travel. I realized I have edited my responses. I only talk about our travels to people who ask, and I keep my answers short and direct unless they genuinely want to know more. It’s sad that even ‘friends’ will tell me they don’t pay attention to my travels because they will just get jealous. Um, ok.
    What am I supposed to say to that? Should I start listing the things in their life I don’t want them to discuss around me? Is this a friendship? It’s a tough situation.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 2:45 pm

      Hey Megan,
      Lol you make me laugh because those are my feelings exactly! You sound just like me. Yes, those kind of people that assume we are rich and aren’t “responsible” or “can’t handle life” really annoy me. I’ve come across some of those. For example, when I told a past co-worker about my travel plans, he like attacked me and had the audacity to ask me about my financial situation! When it comes to friendships you’re right – it’s like I listen to stuff that I don’t necessarily care too much about because you’re my friend, but you can’t do the same? It sucks when we have to edit ourselves or dumb our experiences down just so we are better accepted as the societal norm and don’t make people jealous. It’s not fair to us when that’s not even our intention. Friendship is supposed to be a two way street. And I’m like you – now I only talk about it with people who show genuine interest. That’s the great thing about us having blogs – we can share our experiences all we want with awesome people who really appreciate it! 🙂 (Love you, guys! <3 )

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  • Kristen August 26, 2017 at 2:52 pm

    Great post and I am so happy to see that I’m not the only one who has felt this way! With work, with friends and family—I’ve felt all scopes of it. Vacation is so important to living a well-balanced life, it really keeps me sane. I am fortunate to work for a company that has a very flexible vacation policy, much more generous than that you see at standard American companies. But I still find myself feeling the guilt. Thanks for sharing, this is such a great topic that I could talk about for days! lol

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 4:09 pm

      Hey Kristen,
      Lol Thank you so much! I think that’s great that your company has a flexible vacation policy, it shows that they appreciate their employees and understand importance of the work-life balance. It would be great if the standard changed and all companies adopted a more flexible approach. I’m sure people would be happier – because you’re right – we need them to keep sane! I love this topic too! I think it’s a great thing for more people to be talking about and questioning. With questioning comes change and that would be an awesome thing! :))

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  • Carrie August 26, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    I can totally relate to this. I actually get great vacation time (25 days a year), and my boss is totally supportive of me taking it, but I still feel super nervous every time I ask for time off. And I can’t take off more than about two and a half weeks in a row, no matter how much vacation time I’ve accumulated. It’s really impacted how I travel — I spent years going to places I wasn’t super interested in because the flights were shorter and I didn’t want to spend days in transit as part of my short vacation!

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  • Indie Chick Travels August 26, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    Hi Carrie,
    Wow, that’s a great amount of vacation time (I ain’t mad at that! lol) and it’s cool your boss is supportive. It’s interesting to hear that the limitation on your time has impacted where you travel to and I can totally understand that. I mean, living in the US, when you factor in transit time and jet lag to and from, you don’t have many days left to enjoy your time if you want to travel to like, say Europe and beyond. That’s why the standard 2 weeks a year definitely doesn’t work either! lol

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  • Josie August 26, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    I must be the only one to say I don’t feel a bit of guilt! Maybe it’s because I am at a different stage in my life. If you asked me ten years ago, the answer might have been different, but now – well, I completely quit my corporate, long term job to travel for twelve months in my early 40’s! So not what I “should” be doing at my age. I had kids young and have had to work hard through the years and finally it’s now time for me. Maybe I am just too self centred to care if others don’t like it! It also probably helps that I am in Australia where we are slightly more relaxed than the USA. And the money part – there’s been a rumour going around for a couple of years now that we won the lottery. Not true, we just work hard and prioritise travel – probably like everyone else here.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 27, 2017 at 8:20 pm

      Haha I hear you girl, I’m at the age too where, by “normal” standards, it’s not what I “should” be doing by either, but I don’t care to be normal 😛 (Normal is boring! lol) I think it’s awesome what you are doing and taking the time for yourself. That’s what’s important! Rock on! 🙂

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  • Michelle Joy August 26, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    I have! I’m always afraid of sounding braggy when I talk about our travels. But it’s the only exciting thing we have going on so it’s hard not to share!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 27, 2017 at 8:23 pm

      Hey Michelle,
      Yes, I know! Same thing over here! Travel is like the most exciting thing in mine, too! So it’s not a good feeling to be stifled when you want to share something that you’re so passionate about.

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  • Eleonore August 26, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    Travel guilt is definitely a big thing in the United States. I’ve lived abroad in a few places and now London and I’m so glad to get so much more holiday Xx, Eleonore

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 27, 2017 at 8:26 pm

      Definitely! The US seems to be the place where employees get the shite end of the stick and some don’t even realize it!

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  • Meg August 26, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    I’ve definitely experienced travel guilt before, although I am not American. It’s slightly odd how we shame people who don’t want to conform to a ‘regular’ 9 – 5 existence. I’m a huge advocate of live and let live.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:16 am

      It is odd, isn’t it? lol How boring the world would be if everyone was the same. I agree with you 100% and advocate the same thing 🙂

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  • Christina August 26, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Holy cow I just felt this yesterday when my husband had to ask off again for a family event and his boss told him yes, but that he has asked off too much lately. We have had to go to two weddings, a college graduation, a funeral, family reunion and coming up, a college ring ceremony and baby arrival. The only real vacation we are taking together is a two week trip to Africa. Now he is going to work more than 10 hours and see if he needs to work 6 days to make himself feel loyal to his boss and work ethic. Especially since he is asking for a raise next month and a promotion is in his near future. Ugh just writing about it stresses me out. Funny thing…he has unlimited vacation and feels he can’t use it. Thanks for this refreshing post. Glad to see we are not the only ones who feel guilty for traveling.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:15 am

      Hi Christina,
      It’s funny – I have found myself in the same situation as your husband before – in the past, it’s like the “guilt” has made me like offer to do things like “work through lunch” or more hours just to “soften” the blow of me asking for time off, even if I had earned the time. So crazy! Thank you for sharing your experiences! I hope he gets that raise & promotion! 🙂

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  • Candiss August 26, 2017 at 11:38 pm

    Thanks for sharing your views, I agree full-heartedly! Thankfully I am not one incredibly swayed by other’s perceptions about how I live my life and have taken EVERY SINGLE VACATION DAY (which I know that article mentioned)I have ever had but I have been guilted about taking that time off. I have also been refused my whole 2 week trip to NZ even though I had the vacation days. I have gotten the looks for taking all my time off but travel is one of the things I will take all that awkwardness and guilt for.
    I worked long long hours and weekends often for less money than I should have so the one thing I was going to have was my vacation if I was being guilted into the rest. That being said the American views on vacation are so unhealthy. It is crucial to take a break to reset and be ready for the next round of problems that will inevitably come with work. My European friend laughed at the fact I was going to 3 countries in 10 days on my first big trip and their views on vacation shaped me for sure with out knowing it is different elsewhere I think I could easily have been one of those American statistics.
    I could write an essay about this as well but I will leave it here for now! 😉

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 11:07 am

      Hey Candiss,
      Thank you for your input! I agree, they are unhealthy and we all need to take breaks to rejuvenate ourselves and break up the monotonous routine of day to day life. That should be something that’s respected, not abhorred. It’s funny when I have told European friends about the standard 2 week vacation in America, they couldn’t believe it. Like you, if I never traveled or knew that it was different in other parts of the world, I probably would have been one of those statistics too! (So glad we’re not!) Haha I could talk about this forever too lol – feel free to come back and vent whenever you want 🙂

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  • Emma August 27, 2017 at 12:12 am

    This was a great read! It it often hard to balance a corporate job with traveling. Good for you for following your passion!

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  • Courtney August 27, 2017 at 3:09 am

    Wow- I can definitely relate. I traveled all over the world this summer and when I got home I barely could get one story out before people were bored are ready to move on with the subject. Pitiful. No one asked specifics, or said anything more than “How was ___”. But I know I’m guilty of this too. I need to think of interesting, thought provoking questions to ask people more than just “What was your favorite part?”
    I’m glad you put this into words! I have felt this way for some time and am glad I’m glad others feel this way as well.
    xx
    Courtney || https://courtneylivin.com/

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:30 am

      Hey Courtney,
      I’m also glad I’m not the only one who has felt this way. What I’ve realized over the years is that travel changes those who do it on so many levels, but when we get back home we realize that everyone else is still the same as before we left. And that’s hard to swallow when we feel our experiences are rejected by others. But I’ve grown to expect that now and only talk about my experiences with people who are genuinely interested 🙂 Thank you for your feedback!

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  • Travelling Dany August 27, 2017 at 4:46 am

    Yes I have! Gosh even too often for my own good! When I have to ask for some time off work, when I have to tell my parents (who travel like… a lot!) that we have to switch because I want to travel too… and I have cut ties with (not so much)friends who couldn’t understand the way I live my life, so they made me feel out of place, guilty only because they assumed that I’m not responsible enough since I travel so much. So… definitely not just the American culture but also Italian! 😀

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:38 am

      Hey Dany,
      I have had to do the exact same thing as far as cutting ties with people or so-called “friends” who have made me feel the same way. I think we are much better off without them 🙂 I have also heard the whole thing about us not being “responsible” for traveling too much and it’s such BS. Their definition of responsible is one of the safety of being “inside the box”. I mean, I personally think taking control of your own life to live the life you want to is pretty damn responsible! lol I say rock on and don’t let anyone tell you how you should live your life, do you! And enjoy the ride 🙂 Thank you for sharing!

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  • Michelle | michwanderlust August 27, 2017 at 5:36 am

    It’s truly horrendous how little annual leave Americans get! I feel like as a global society these days we’re too quick to judge people who look different from us, think differently, or have different goals and dreams. That definitely needs to change! Your goals and dreams are just as valid as the next person’s. Good luck with your new career path!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:44 am

      Exactly! That’s what I’m saying! It really is horrendous and these old views need to be brought up to speed with current times. People should be encouraged to think differently and peruse their own paths without feeling chastised. I mean, who wants to live in a world full of robots? lol Thank you so much, Michelle!

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  • Nina August 27, 2017 at 9:23 am

    I totally feel that. I decided to move to Europe instead and teach so I could travel more. So many Europeans I meet don’t have to choose because they get a month every year. Americans do have it all backwards. I think the other thing I see in the US is people not traveling overseas (except maybe Canada or Mexico) because they think when they go to Europe, they have to see it all. So when they could say take a week and see a few countries, they view that as a waste. They want to wait until they have a month, which won’t be for years. I always say “if you have a week, why not pick a European country and go?” Who says you can’t come back?

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:51 am

      Hi Nina,
      Very true! Because of the limited vacation time, I feel that people stay closer to home as well. Meanwhile, in all honestly, it is more expensive to travel within America than it is to go overseas! (No sh*t!) I think Americans need to travel abroad more (outside of Mexico/Canada), because lots of them don’t. I think one week is enough time if you want to rush through a country, but I can understand how people feel it is a waste, I mean, I personally do, too (by the time you fly, get over jet lag, etc.). I don’t like rushing through places when I travel, that’s why I believe the American standard has to be revamped. It’s just not fair to people in general. Thank you for your input 🙂

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  • Ana August 27, 2017 at 11:00 am

    First I thought I had it bad with 21 days of vacation per year (paid). US needs to get things in order. People need breaks or the will break. I will appreciate more my free time. Second, I love telling my adventures and I love hearing other peoples’ adventures. So for me the guilt is not really an issue and it shouldn’t be for anyone. When something exciting happens in your life don’t you want to share it? Travel is that! So share it proud. Who listens and enjoys good for them, who is jealous … well I just feel sorry for them.

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  • Zephyriousity August 27, 2017 at 11:30 am

    Wow! Good to know that I am not alone. I always feel guilty when I am travelling. Guilty with my family. They doesnt seem to understand why I am doing this. And even when I always give money for support, travelling will always be an issue.

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 10:05 am

      Hey! I’m sorry to hear that. It’s hard when you’re not supported by your family in fulfilling your dreams of traveling, but I would tell you to keep on doing what you want to do and carve out your own path in life. At the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself and your goals in life 🙂 Thank you for sharing!

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  • Sandy August 27, 2017 at 11:01 pm

    Agree with you 100%! I think anyone who’s caught the travel bug would be able to relate to this article. Thanks for sharing <3

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  • Vick Fichtner August 28, 2017 at 7:39 am

    You`re right when you say this is an american thing, but not only U.S. South America is the same, and I would feel like that until I moved to Europe.
    It still surprises me how people here value their free time, how they just refuse to work more than the normal hours just to impress their bosses, and how they`re not afraid of asking for days off to travel whenever they need or feel like it, even if they just started a new job. And their bosses, they are totally ok with that because that`t normal here.
    So I don`t feel guilty about my travels, even more because I`m a freelance worker, but I do get the same treatment for my friends whenever I come back from a trip, that people are not interesting in hearing about what I saw and did, even though they do sometimes comment about my pictures. But it seems that talking about my last failed date is much more interesting. So I also stopped trying to tell them cause I don`t want to impose and don`t want to sound like I`m bragging, even though I`m not, I`m just sharing something interesting…

    I don`t know why people act like this, if they`re just really not interested, or it has a jealousy component…

    Great text and an important reflexion!

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    • Indie Chick Travels August 28, 2017 at 11:02 am

      Hi Vick,
      I kind of think it’s both – I think that some people are jealous (even if they don’t want to admit it) because we are doing something that they want to do, or have had the b*lls to do (because they live in fear) or they are just generally unhappy in their own lives so to see someone be happy in theirs causes them to feel jealous (I called this kind of person a “best friend” for years before I had to separate). And that there are some that aren’t interested, but at the same time, if we’re friends, we should be able to share things whether they’re interested in it or not. It works both ways, you know? As far as work goes, I’d have to say I’m definitely more aligned to the European outlook on work/time off. It just makes the most sense and seems the most fair. Life is meant to be lived as life, not as a slave to your job. 🙂 Thank you for your input!

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  • Caitlin August 28, 2017 at 11:27 pm

    I totally get that feeling too. I find that people are not interested to hear about travel, yet I have to hear about stories of their kids. We need to change the colour so that taking time off to travel is not frowned upon.

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  • Thrifty Campers September 16, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    Travel is needed to truly understand the world around us and broaden our perspective, plus I feel it rebalances an individual.

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